Are you afraid or nervous to assert yourself for fear of looking dumb? Are you scared of what people think of you and are unable to take action because of it? Do you feel stuck in your job or spot in your life? Do you get anxious thinking about work or the things you could have done differently? If you answered YES to any of these questions then you have an opportunity to work on your confidence. Confidence will free you from the fear and judgement and it will reduce your stress and anxiety. Confidence will empower you to start living life by your terms. Here are 4 steps to create unstoppable confidence.
Step 1: Know Yourself. What are your values? What’s most important to you? The more you know yourself the easier it is to make decisions that will further your happiness. For example, my number one value is Authenticity. I use that to guide my decisions in my life and business. If I have to commit to an event or relationship where I can’t be myself, then I say NO. It is my way of honoring what’s most important to me. What’s most important to you?
Step 2: Know Where You’re Going. What are your goals? Where do you want to be in 1, 5 or 10 years? When we are clear on what’s important to us it can guide us in our daily lives. For example, if you want to improve your health and run a 5K, then start acting TODAY and making choices that support that.
Step 3: Know Your Barriers. What are your buttons? What are the situations that trigger your confidence? Familiarize yourself with triggers so you can consciously prepare yourself for how you want to respond to those instances. For example, let’s say a barrier is feedback. When you receive constructive feedback you might shut down and spiral into self judgement, which doesn’t serve you. Ask yourself, how do I want to respond? What’s another way that you can look at it? Prepare for your buttons so they don’t drain your energy and ruin your day.
Step 4: Know Your Worth. What are you most proud of? What are some great accomplishments? Too often when our confidence is drained we forget all of the things that we have done that show how smart, capable, and amazing we are. Start by creating a “Great List”, a list of everything that you’re proud of. Keep it handy for those moments that you’re not feeling as confident to remind yourself of your worth and success.
“We are what we believe we are.” C.S. Lewis
Jenn DeWall, Denver based Career & Life Coach for Millennials, Confidence Expert, Motivational Speaker