Are you in a job that you feel stuck in? Here’s one of the common stories I hear from my clients. You go to college, earn a degree and begin a job within that industry. Fast forward a few years (or months) later and you feel unfilled and think you somehow “got it wrong”. You want to leave your job, but you’re not sure what to do. One thing is for sure, you want to be certain not to make the same mistake again and end up in a career or job that you hate.
This is one of the most common challenges that my clients go through and I would love to share my perspective in hopes that it can empower you to look at your story in a different way. To simplify, the challenge they face is a fear of failure or getting it wrong. Life is a journey of new experiences. There’s no such thing as getting it right. As a matter of fact, if we think we have to get it right then we’re discounting the value of our life experiences and how they will shape and inspire us.
I graduated from college with an undergraduate degree in Communication Arts and Political Science with hopes of becoming a human rights lawyer. I took the first job out of college I could find and I studied for my LSAT in the evenings. I took the LSAT, applied to only two schools and didn’t get accepted. I was miserable but at the same time found that I really enjoyed my current role in a buying office. Instead of pursuing my law degree, I continued to grow my career in business and eventually earned my MBA. The MBA was great but the downside was that I worked for a VP who didn’t see me as a fit and put a hold on my career (also known as black balling) and wouldn’t promote me. This feeling was awful, I felt powerless and worthless, my confidence shattered. I didn’t know what to do and I couldn’t leave as my company was paying for my MBA.
I watched my peers get promoted and I sat stuck in the same position for four years. For a Type A personality like myself, this was devastating. Since I couldn’t evolve in my career I committed myself to being a mentor for other women that were just starting their career with the company. I wanted to be sure to help them avoid all of the same mistakes that I made so they could create success without the pain I experienced. I enjoyed mentoring and coaching so much that I enrolled in a coaching program in November 2013 and by February 2014, once my company paid for my education I left my corporate gig, took a pay cut and opened my own coaching practice.
My point to the story is that there is no wrong path or wrong decision. All of my experiences brought me to where I am today and I’m grateful. Should I decide to change careers down the line, no big deal! I’m a different person today than I was in my twenties and I’m sure to be a different person in my forties.
The only way you will know if a new career or job is a fit is to go for it. Use all of the knowledge that you’ve gained up until today and apply it to your next career move. There is no way to predict the future, but what you can do is consciously choose your present and trust that if something doesn’t work out down the line you’ll figure it out. It might even take you to something bigger than you could have ever imagined.
Choose Your Happy Life!
"Failure is not the opposite of success, it's part of success"