I often hear horror stories about people hating their jobs, working for a horrible boss or making less than they’re worth. It’s because of these scenarios and experiences that I have a job as a career coach and I’m grateful for that but what I want to do is change the way we think about our careers. I want to inspire you to apply a new frame of mind that can inspire you to find happiness in your current job even if you’re actively looking for a new one. To be able to ask for the raise or promotion in a way that empowers you and also work for that horrible boss and keep calm even if they’re retched to work under. Just because you have a bitchy boss doesn’t mean you have to have an awful day, right?
It’s that simple. I want to offer you a new way to look at your job. Treat your job like a relationship with a boyfriend or significant other. It’s so easy to jump on tinder and swipe left. We know what we want, what appeals to us and what’s going to make us happy. In an instant we choose whether or not we want to connect with someone on Tinder but yet we forgo our power when it comes to our career. This is contradictory. A career, like a relationship can have a huge impact on our happiness. If we’re unhappy in a relationship, we either end it or work to repair it. However, in our jobs we resort to a place of helplessness and feel that we have to stay with the company because “I don’t want to be a quitter”, “I have a great benefits or salary package”, and the list to stay unhappy goes on.
This is the first blog post of the series I will be doing called “Dating Your Career”. In it I will offer different perspectives that are tangible and easily applicable. In turn I hope that through application you’re able to find more happiness for you and feel that you have control and power in situations where you may not have felt you had power in the past.
Let’s think about dating, answer the questions below as it pertains to what you want in a relationship.
What are you looking for in a relationship?
How do you want to feel in the relationship?
What do you want to gain from the relationship?
How much time do you want to invest in the relationship?
If the relationship is strained, what would you do?
Great, now take those same questions and answers and apply them to your career. What are your takeaways?
Now if you were in a relationship and tolerating things you didn’t like or you found you no longer wanted to be in a relationship what would you do? Now ask yourself, why is it any different for your career? Would you communicate differently? Would you look for a new job/relationship? How do you want to feel?
I hope these questions stimulate a new and liberating mindset that can help you truly find the job that you’re connected to and makes you happy.